Amy Kennedy The Creative Crone

In the book “Will Grayson, Will Grayson” by John Green and David Levithan, one of the Wills asks Jane (whom he likes) to agree to be completely honest with each other and not worry about feelings for 10 minutes and then to go back to “normal.”

I want you to do the same thing–I’m doing it too! None of this, “do as I say and not as I do” bullshit. Can you be completely honest with yourself for 10 minutes and not worry about what anyone else would think? Even yourself?

If I’m honest with you, it’ll be more than 10 minutes–but you could do 10 minute increments. Okay, ready?

1. What is the biggest sticking point in your life right now?
   • Is there anything that could be done about it? Do you have any control over the situation?
     • Are you sure? (I’m assuming you didn’t think so.)
   • Could you think about it differently, look at it differently?
   • Are there steps you could take to re-direct yourself if this situation comes up again?
2. When were you the hardest on yourself?
   • What did that do for you?
   • Did you need to be that hard on yourself?
     • If you think you did, did it spur you to make a change? To have a difficult conversation? Maybe with yourself?
3. What was the best thing that happened this last (year, month, week)?
   • Why did you love about it?
   • Can you recreate the feeling for/through other things?

I don’t know about you, but I am feeling called-out! It’s so much easier to sit across from yourself, pretend you’re talking to a friend (but it’s you) and asking these questions. I think sometimes we let ourselves off too easy–don’t take that the wrong way (or, do, if you need to)–sometimes we need to call ourselves out.

Like, what is ACTUALLY happening here? Is it me, hi, I’m the problem, it’s me… 🙂 I am not saying we are our own problem, but rarely are we our own solution. I think we should expect more from ourselves, or pretend we are the therapist for ourselves and not take any bullsh*t from ourselves.

I never want you to think I have it all figured out, *spoiler alert* I don’t. But as a lover of continuous improvement I want to think I’m open to trying to figure things out. Also, no Yoda, sometimes there is “try”.

I hope this made you think about something that’s difficult for you right now in a different way–my hope is to always have you feel just a little better after reading one of my blogs, thanks for being here.

Be brave and love each other, Amy